Boaz - The moral challenge

"Stay here for the night, and in the morning if he wants to redeem, good; let him redeem. But if he is not willing, as surely as the Lord lives I will do it. Lie here until morning." Ruth 3:13 NIV.

The passage above was Boaz's response to what we may call Ruth's 'marriage proposal' to him. There are many things we can learn from the life of Boaz which I believe is a challenge to us as Christians today. Ruth was there alone with him in the field, in the middle of the night, but he did not touch her. He was a rich man and was qualified to claim Ruth to himself, but he exercised self-control. He had been showing favour to Ruth since the harvest started. She had gleaned from his field severally, but he did not exploit the situation as it presented itself. To say it in our modern words today, he helped Ruth and Naomi to have something to eat. He helped her to have something to do temporarily. However, he did not allow these to make him to exploit the vulnerable woman. "Lie here until morning", he told her but never touched her.

Many people have thrown morality to the winds. Many men can no longer be trusted with the opposite sex no matter who the woman is to them. We have had cases of people sleeping with their best friend's wife or fiance. What of those who sleep with maids who serve them in the house? We seem to see every woman as a sexual figure without considering the stories behind these figures we see. We have a generation that has bought into the worldly deception that sex is the high point of happiness. Sex is now a god. Everyday, sex is being advertised and sold to us through the means of the TV, Print Media and the Internet as if you are missing the whole world if you do not engage in it. If a girl says that she is a virgin today, her friends will squirm and make her feel very awkward.

The churches are not a 'safer place' any more. A lot of stories of pastors abusing the privilege God gave to them abound. Every now and then, you hear stories of one moral failure or the other among church leaders. We are indeed in a big moral crises. Our children are confused because we do not model purity to them and cannot answer the questions they are asking based on the sensual information they are exposed to.

But, is it possible to live a holy life today? YES IT IS! Is it possible to show the kind of moral strength Boaz exhibited in the passage above? YES IT IS! That moral strength is what we need today.Boaz was a man of honour and integrity.

This is not meant to condemn or discourage anyone struggling to come out of a moral failure. Don't give up. Fight and win because your purity is God's will. You can make it. This is meant to encourage all men to pursue excellence and purity in their relationships; pursue purity in their thoughts and conducts. We can win; we can overcome if we believe, no matter what is going on around us today. We once shared A Letter to Christian Men by the wife of Tim Challis on this website and we still think that every man should think seriously about it. We can be different from the world. We can make a covenant to be the Boazs of today.


Write me if you were blessed or have any need for counselling. Drop a comment. God bless you.

Something is fundamentally wrong with "Health and Wealth" Theology

I do not intend to dig very deep into many Bible passages today to confirm that "Health and wealth" theology is fundamentally wrong. What I intend to do is just to draw our attention to a few things that are happening around us and compare them with a few happenings in the Bible and ask us to continue to pray for the church.

As we speak, Christians are going through persecutions all over the world especially in China and many Islamic nations. Even nations which are not necessarily Islamic are experiencing a huge increase of Moslem attacks on Christians. Just look at this report on Uganda and notice the number of Christians that have been attacked and killed. Remember it was in Uganda that Bishop Umar Mulinde, a 37 year old sheikh turned gospel preacher was attacked with acid after a preaching engagement. We issued the prayer alert here. Thank God that Pastor Mulinde survived but never the same physiologically but still strong in the spirit.

In China, there is a revival of attacks on Christians. Many pastors and church members are being arrested and put in prison without any court process. Crosses and worship centers are being destroyed. One significant thing is that even the so-called approved churches, the Three Self Patriotic Movement (TSPM) and the China Christian Council (CCC), are not left out this time around. Amazingly, the church has grown from about one million in 1966 to about one hundred million strong at the beginning of the 21st century.

In Nigeria, almost on a weekly basis, a major attack is carried out on Christians and perceived Christian communities either by the dreaded Boko Haram or the Fulani Herdsmen. Christians that stand on righteousness are discriminated against,in some cases are oppressed where they cannot help themselves.

All these seem to agree with the Bible passages "In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted" 2 Tim 3:12; "Here is a trustworthy saying: If we died with him, we will also live with him; if we endure, we will also reign with him. If we disown him, he will also disown us; 2 Tim 2:11-12; "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." John 16:33NIV. The Book of Acts is filled with stories of how the church grew in the midst of attacks and persecution. We are encouraged to pray, identify and support those who are subjected to suffering due to persecution.

Now how do all these agree with the prevalent preaching that if you are a Christian, everything will be working for you; you will not suffer; you will become rich and wealthy; you will not get sick; any enemy that stands in your way will die etc etc? Is this not the reason why there is no difference anymore between us and the world? As Christians many of us compromise everywhere because we do not want to suffer any inconvenience and want to remain in the same boat with our peers and friends. We do not want to offend anybody so that we are not called names. We care less about the persecuted brethren and often think that it's their fault. Most church leaders accumulate wealth, caught in the competition web, and become so rich that you wonder whether they have the desire to go to heaven; yet so rich in the midst of very poor brethren who are being encouraged all the time to continue to contribute for the welfare of the church leaders. One of the tests for correct interpretation of Scriptures is that the application of such interpretation can cut across cultures. For example, a correct interpretation of a Scriptural passage cannot mean a different thing to a Christian in America and a different thing to a persecuted brother in Uganda. Even though cultures are different, ways of application may differ, but basically, the passage means the same thing. Anytime a Scriptural passage is interpreted in different ways, there are only two possibilities, either one is wrong or both are wrong. Definitely both cannot be right.

Let us begin to bring our churches back to the Bible. Pray for pastors and teachers of God's Word for boldness and sincerity in teaching the truth. Pray that emphasis on faithfulness may come back to the church. Pray for revival in our churches, that we may experience the move of God in our time. God bless you.

Shafqat and his wife Shagufta sentenced to death for trumped up charges of blasphemy

Shafqat and his wife Shagufta, the parents of four children, were Rescue Christians, The couple lost their phone a few months before and reported the incident to the Police. Later the stolen phone was used by unknown persons to send texts which the authority considers blasphemous.

sentenced to death for sending "blasphemous text messages". according to Keith Davies of

Shafqat and his wife Shagufta are from the city of Gojra, Punjab, in eastern Pakistan. Even though there was no sufficient evidence in support of the charge, the prosecutor and the judge were pressured to render them guilty of sending the "blasphemous text messages" for fear that they themselves might be killed. Shafqat is crippled and their children also are threatened.

Please pray for this couple's release. Pray for their children for protection. Also pray that inspite of all these threats that the Gospel may continue to move mightily in Pakistan and all the Islamic nations.

"For the earth will be filled with the knowledge of the glory of the LORD as the waters cover the sea." Hab.2:14.

Watch the video here.

NO UNITY AT THE EXPENSE OF TRUTH

Issued by Christian Concern

News Release

For immediate release

17 February 2016

‘No unity at the expense of truth’: a response to Justin Welby’s Presidential Address

Andrea Williams, chief executive of Christian Concern and a member of the Church of England’s General Synod, has issued the following statement in response to the Archbishop Justin Welby’s Presidential Address to the General Synod on Monday (15 FEB):

The Archbishop of Canterbury’s presidential address at Synod addressed the aftermath of the recent Primates’ gathering in Canterbury, in which a compromise was reached between two diametrically opposed groups: those who hold to the Bible’s teaching on marriage and sexuality – and those who do not..

Real unity can only grow in the soil of truth. No amount of institutional scaffolding can substitute for healthy soil...

The underlying issue is whether the churches will submit to God’s Word.

An approach to unity which, as long as the institution is upheld, allows an ‘agreement to disagree’ on Scripture’s authority, is counter-productive and doomed to failure.

Unless there is a shared submission to God’s Word, we are not on a shared journey to a shared destination, and no amount of institutional scaffolding will take us there..

He is right in reminding us that Jesus came to set us free. Yet true freedom is freedom from sin, which is found in repentance and the surrendering of human desires to the work of the Holy Spirit. It is not freedom to continue holding to disobedience of the Word...

he Archbishop spoke of the picture of humility that Jesus painted through the washing of His disciples’ feet. But in that humility and servant-heartedness, we must point people to truth. Archbishop Justin failed to speak of truth or of objective revelation from God. It is as if truth has been relegated to a ‘process of discernment’ not a matter of scripture, canons and creed.

This is a capitulation to the ‘spirit of the age’, not the Spirit of God who has spoken in Scripture.

Please read more here.

Qualification for church membership –The Scripture and some practiced models

Recently, one of the churches in Niger Delta area of Nigeria is having crisis because their pastor is insisting that everybody must pay some token for membership in order to be recognized as a member and qualify for the privileges accruable to members.

Some people have kicked against the move emphasizing that it is ungodly and unbiblical no matter the amount of money involved whether big or small, and that they will never pay money to belong to their church. Others have insisted that the pastor is right as it is the church doctrine and tradition; in fact someone even said that those who refused to pay the money for membership should leave the church. This rule has been applied during the election of the Leadership of the Men’s Fellowship and many were declared ineligible either to vote or to be voted for. Many men in the church are grumbling. The pastor has also promised to apply the same rule during the Council elections coming up later in the month of February.

Now because the church in question is an Anglican Church, we have made efforts to research into both the church’s history to see whether this is an apparent deviation or what the church really teaches. Hence, we will have two-pronged approach to this discuss: the first approach is from biblical point of view, are you supposed to pay some money before you are made a member of a church? What are the requirements? Secondly, from the Anglican Church practice and history, must you pay some money before you can be a church member?

Biblical qualification for church membership

First of all, it is important to say that it is a difficult task trying to separate belonging to the universal church of all nations to which every believer belongs irrespective of his denomination and belonging to a local church. This is because, inasmuch as it is repentance towards God and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ that makes you a member of the body of Christ, there are very clear commands in the Bible that the saved person is not supposed to operate alone in isolation. It is a group of those saved people that gather together to form a local church.  John Piper gives five New Testament evidence for church membership here. The idea is that the picture painted for us in the Bible is such that for you to function properly, you must belong to a body of believers. It is God’s plan. Dr. Piper summarizes the five reasons as follows:

1. We should take responsibility to discipline those of the body who do not repent from public sin that brings reproach on the name of Christ.
2. We should declare ourselves part of the body so that if we are wayward, we ourselves would be liable to such exclusion.
3.  We should take our position under the leadership and authority of a particular group of elders. 
4.  We should declare ourselves part of a group who expect to be watched over and cared for by a particular group of elders.
5. And we should find our place in the organic whole as a body part—a member—of a local body of Christ.

 Each local church is a living organism with different members joined to each other to fulfill different functions, all working together for the purpose of expressing the universal body of Christ. Exclusion from the body, either by the leadership or by personal decision, is a very serious matter.

The membership of the body of Christ is a covenant membership brought about by a spiritual birth. Also, membership of the local church is a resultant effect of a spiritual birth. When one believes in the Lord Jesus Christ, it is in the church that he is taught and nourished in order for him to have a healthy growth. Every local church is a body. It is within the context of this body that the new believer joins with other believers in fellowship for mutual edification. The different gifts distributed to each believer in Christ are for this mutual benefit. (1 Cor.12:7).

Water Baptism

Now you cannot discuss biblical church membership without discussing the meaning and implications of water baptism. The instruction to go and preach goes together with the instruction to conduct water baptism.

“Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." Matt.28:19-20 NIV.

We can see three commands in this Scriptural passage:

1. Go and make disciples 
2. Baptize the disciples you make
3. Teach them to observe the commands of the Lord Christ

Water baptism is not optional for New Covenant believers. It is how Jesus taught that we should express our faith in Him. It is connected above as the first experience a disciple should have as he is taught the commandments of Jesus. In fact, it is part of your faith expressions as you enter into Christ. (Col.2:11-12; Gal.3:26-27). It is the initiation that makes you identify with the death and resurrection of the One who died for you and was raised from the dead. That initiation into the body of Christ also makes you a member of the body of believers that helped you come to Christ. They are all interwoven together. It is in the context of this local church that all these commands are obeyed and the activities carried out.

Qualification for membership of an Anglican Church

From the foregoing discussion, it is clear that belonging to a local church is not and should not be thought like belonging to a select club or social groups driven by privileges. The only qualification we see in Scriptures that makes a person eligible to become a member of a body of believers is the faith he has in the Lord Jesus Christ, his willingness to submit himself to water baptism and the commands of Jesus.  

Now what does the Anglican Church teach about church membership? Look at the Article XXVII: Of Baptism

"Baptism is not only a sign of profession, and mark of difference, whereby Christian men are discerned from others that be not christened, but is also a sign of Regeneration or new Birth, whereby, as by an instrument, they that receive Baptism rightly are grafted into the Church; the promises of the forgiveness of sin, and of our adoption to be the sons of God by the Holy Ghost, are visibly signed and sealed; Faith is confirmed, and Grace increased by virtue of prayer unto God. The Baptism of young Children is in any wise to be retained in the Church, as most agreeable with the institution of Christ".

The Anglican believes that baptism is what grafts you into the body of Christ. From the Electoral Roll of the Church of England,

(2) A lay person shall be entitled to have his name entered on the roll of a parish if he is baptised, of sixteen years or upwards, has signed an application form for enrolment set out in Appendix I of these rules and declares himself either -

(a) to be a member of the Church of England or of a Church in communion therewith resident in the parish; or

(b) to be such a member and, not being resident in the parish, to have habitually attended public worship in the parish during a period of six months prior to enrolment; or

(c) to be a member in good standing of a Church which subscribes to the doctrine of the Holy Trinity (not being a Church in communion with the Church of England) and also prepared to declare himself to be a member of the Church of England having habitually attended public worship in the parish during a period of six months prior to enrollment.

The model above stipulates that what makes you a member is your baptism and signing of an application form. What qualifies you is never because you subscribed with money; instead emphasis is laid on subscribing to the doctrines and teachings of the church. This makes sense within the context since those who occupy positions of leadership in the church must understand the basic Christian doctrine. All the conditions for vestry meetings, constitutions and canons for almost all the Episcopal and Anglican congregations assessed during the period of this writing agree with the model above.

Conclusion

Having gone through this discuss one may now ask, where did the pastor get his model from? Obviously not from the Bible. Are there some laws in his Diocese from where he is drawing his authority? If there is, obviously that law must be an aberration from what the Church of England practice and what the Bible teaches. It is not Anglican tradition. If some people ever practiced it, it is certainly out of ignorance and misinformation. Errors are not supposed to be copied and practiced but discarded.

The purpose of this paper is to bring biblical and historical perspectives into the discussion that is currently going on in the particular church, and to strengthen truth. It will also stir up those who may want to research further into the topic. The focus is for the Church of Jesus Christ to be what He wants it to be. You can comment on the website or write me at: evergreenword@gmail.com. You can download the document here.

 

May God bless His church as we continue to live in obedience to His Word. Amen.

Fulani Herdsmen attacked a village near Jos, Plateau, Nigeria

This is part of the war of Islam against Christianity. One may even be tempted to say that Boko Haram members have sneaked into the communities and are using these herdsmen as a cover up. Please continue to pray for the brethren living in areas where they suffer severe persecution. May God help them to be strong till the end. May their lives and testimonies bear fruits that will remain.

Last month, Fulani herdsmen attacked two homes in the predominantly Christian village of Hwak Kwata-Zawan, located near the city of Jos. The militants also raided a nearby compound consisting of Nigerians who had been initially displaced by violence elsewhere in the country's Plateau state. The total number of fatalities resulting from the raids has reached 15, leaving many more in the community grief-stricken and emotionally wounded.

In one of the village homes, 57-year-old Rose Monday was killed while trying to protect her three young grandchildren from the gunmen. Two of the three children had unfortunately succumbed to their injuries. Their elder sister, five-year-old Anna, who miraculously survived, is receiving treatment in hospital for gunshot wounds. Rose's daughter (the children's aunt) added that their remaining relatives are consoled to know that one day they will all be reunited as a family with the Lord Jesus Christ.

Read more here.

At last, The Anglican Church begins to take a stand

The one week-long Primates Meeting in England is coming to an end and a consensus statement has been made concerning the homosexual stance of the Episcopal Church USA (ECUSA). This is good news but as the Archbishop of Uganda, Rt. Rev. Stanley Ntagali rightly said, "this action must not be seen as an end, but as a beginning."

The implication of this is that the "Episcopalians "no longer represent us on ecumenical and interfaith bodies," and have the equivalent of observer status in Anglican commissions" according to the statement.

We all wish that God will prevail upon every heart so that when we are confronted with our sins, instead of defending and finding ways to justify ourselves, we simply repent and ask God for mercy. Homosexualism is just one of sexual perversions that have been from of old.

Read more on this story here.

Please pray for Bishop GT Adebanjo and his wife

The husband and wife were kidnapped in Warri on their way to Harvest Thanksgiving Service.. They are calling the other bishops in the denomination to raise N10m and send to them.

"Oh, that you would rend the heavens and come down,
that the mountains would tremble before you!" Isa 64:1 NIV

Please pray.

Read here for more.

Indigenous Missionaries Leave Legacy of Faith

Our missionaries need prayers. What is happening in the North Eastern part of Nigeria is a disaster; but most of the brunt is borne by Christians who are being targeted and killed. Read these wonderful testimonies about the lives of five ECWA missionaries who served and died in Nigeria. Take out time to pray for them during your family devotions and church prayer sessions.

From Morning Star News:

“These missionaries have been laboring in very dangerous, remote mission fields, far away from modern civilization,” said Elijah Ipole, head of media for the ECWA’s Evangelical Missionary Society (EMS). “Some have had to bury their loved ones while in mission fields. Some have had their properties looted or completely destroyed by the enemies of the gospel.”

Established in 1947 to empower indigenous African missionaries to take over missions work from foreign missionaries in Nigeria, EMS has lost five of its leaders to Boko Haram and other jihadists in the last four years, according to the ECWA president. One of them, the Rev. Isma Dogari, was murdered in Bauchi state in 2011. 

An EMS report describes his death:

“The Muslims took him to a mosque just by the roadside and, once inside, gave him a Koran and told him to denounce Jesus and live. But he refused and told them, ‘You need Jesus Christ in your lives.’ They then plugged his eyes, brought him out of the mosque, took him under a tree and asked him again to denounce his faith and live, but repeatedly he told them, ‘You need Jesus.’ At this point they stabbed Rev. Isma Dogari with a knife, slaughtered him and burned his corpse.” 

The Rev. Bukari Bunga, a director with EMS, told Morning Star News that Pastor Dogari was killed on April 10, 2011, while working in the Muntoshi Station. He was killed in Mararaban Liman Katagun. Other EMS missionaries killed by Muslim jihadists, according to Bunga, were pastor Ezra Ibrahim, killed in his station at Sabon Gida on Sept. 19, 2014; pastor Joshua M. Nana, killed in Bassa village in 2013; pastor Yunana Kinge, killed in Rafin Pa, Zankwa of the ECWA’s mid-central region on June 25, 2012; and pastor Yakubu Wazari, killed at Jos’ main market while taking his son to school on Jan. 8, 2011. He has served in Bani Kauwa II in Kasuwan Magani of the mid-central region.

“Please continue to pray for our missionaries, their families and the converts in the various mission fields, as you continue to bear in mind that the gospel is being preached by these missionaries in increasingly volatile and very deadly crises situations,” he wrote.

Pastor Mark Christmas - RCCG Pastor Kidnapped and the Abductors are asking for N30M

Kidnapping stories are beginning to become rampant again in Rivers, Bayelsa and Abia states. This one is a Pastor of a Redeemed Christian Church of God in Yenagoa, Bayelsa. Please pray for his safety and quick resolution of this. Also pray that this madness may be brought to a halt.

From Vanguard News:

ABDUCTORS of a Yenagoa-based clergyman, Pastor Mark Christmas of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, RCCG, “New Anointing Chapel”, are demanding N30 milion ransom for his freedom.

The pastor, according to his wife, Mrs Evelyn Christmas, was abducted along with two of his church members at his hometown in Biseingbene, a riverine community in Ekeremor Local Government Area of the state on October 18.

Mrs Christmas said her husband was lured to the community on the pretext of attending an emergency family meeting with his kinsmen when the incident happened.

“You know we reside in Yenagoa. So, on that fateful day, my husband was invited to Biseingbene by his kinsmen for a meeting. When he got there, he found out that the invitation for a meeting was false and a devilish plan to kidnap him.  My husband has spent over two weeks in their hands,” she narrated.

Christian Mother of Eight Is Slain

Persecution of Christians is on the increase. What breaks my heart is that as these things are happening, many of church leaders are busy pursuing their selfish interests. The righteous is taken and no one pays attention.

A mother of 8 is killed because her husband converted from Islam to Christianity. Let's continue to pray for her husband who is already marked.

 From Morning Star News:

Muslims in eastern Uganda angry at a Christian for leaving Islam killed his wife on Monday (Oct. 19), a month after his brother was killed for the same reason, sources said.
Mamwikomba Mwanika, mother of three adult children and five others ranging in age from 17 to 9, died en route to a hospital after Muslims unknown to her dragged her from her home at about 9 p.m. and assaulted her, survivors said.

Mwanika answered a knock at her door in Kalampete village, Kibuku District, to find strangers asking for her husband. Her husband’s brother, Samson Nfunyeku, was killed in the village on Sept. 23 after flaring tempers cut short a religious debate he’d had with Islamic scholars.

Mwanika replied to the visitors that her husband was away, according to her children. They said one of the men at the door then told her, “Your husband has followed the religion of his brother, and we had warned you people to stop these activities, but our message has landed on deaf ears.”
The Muslims threatened to kill her if she failed to produce her husband, the children said.

“The attackers dragged our mother outside the house as she screamed and cried for help,” said her 13-year-old child.

Rowan County Clerk Kim Davis released

It's important I share this also with my readers. Kim has been released from prison after spending six days in jail. The same "U.S. district court judge who found her in contempt said he was satisfied licenses were being issued in accordance with a U.S. Supreme Court decision".

The order is that she "shall not interfere in any way, directly or indirectly, with the efforts of her deputy clerks to issue marriage licenses to all legally eligible couples."

This is a great news. Let's continue to pray for her and her family. Please pray for revival of faith among Christians. Pray for the persecuted church. God bless.

A Letter to Christian Men

I find this Letter by the wife of Tim Challis very encouraging and timely. My belief is that it is possible to fight sexual sins and win. It is possible to live in victory. Read and be blessed.

My Wife's Plea to Christian Men

Over the weekend I could see that Aileen had something on her mind. We spoke and she told me about reading the news, about seeing more Christian men fall into scandal, and, in the face of it all, her confusion, her despair, the crumbling of her hope. I asked if she would write about it. Here is what she said. —Tim Challies

How long ago was it now? Was it ten years? Twelve? How long has it been since I faced it for the first time? It was a whispered rumor here, a shaded suggestion there. Then it was the devastated wife weeping in my basement as I tried desperately to draw on some wisdom, some biblical truth, that would help her. Little did I know, all those years ago, that this was simply the tip of the iceberg. But I had hope.

Six years ago, Tim wrote Sexual Detox, and I followed up with False Messages. The number of letters we received shocked us—heart-breaking, soul-crushing emails from guilty men and women married to unfaithful husbands. I wrestled and fought to understand it all from a biblical perspective. Why do so many men, and even so many Christian men, have such weakness when it comes to sexual sin? But even then I still had hope, hope in the truth of the gospel, hope in the power of the Holy Spirit.

In the years since, I have listened to more stories of more Christian men falling, wept with more women, and prayed a whole lot. I have tried to explain to women how their husbands think about sex: Your husband doesn’t just want it, he wantsyou. I’ve tried to tell them that sex is a good gift that God gives as a means of grace in marriage, a means of bonding a husband and wife together. I have counseled single young women to pursue purity. I have been teaching all the right stuff. And I have believed it all. I had hope.

Then came Ashley Madison and the suggestion that hundreds of pastors would have to resign after being caught with accounts on this website that glorifies adultery. And it’s not just pastors—hundreds of other Christian men, both single and married, have been caught up in the scandal. Now there are more broken homes, more devastated churches, more weeping wives, more mocking of God. And I have to tell you, this week, today, I am struggling to find hope.

I have fought to understand the struggle men face. I have fought to have compassion. I have encouraged wives to extend forgiveness, to willingly and joyfully give themselves to their husbands. But you know what? I just don’t know how I can keep doing it. Not when so many husbands are deceptively defiling the marriage bed. Not when so many young, single men are recklessly defiling the future marriage bed. Not when so many men seem just plain unwilling to change.

Men, you are supposed to be modeling holiness before the world (Titus 2:6-8). You are supposed to be cherishing your wives as Christ cherishes his church (Ephesians 5:25). You are supposed to be abstaining from all sexual immorality (1 Thessalonians 4:3). You are supposed to be fleeing youthful passions (2 Timothy 2:22). Why are so many of you failing at these basic tasks? Is it really that difficult? You would almost think that this one sin is beyond the power of the Holy Spirit.

You who keep choosing to sin, you who keep visiting those websites, you who have secret lives you keep hidden from your friends and your wives: Why won’t you stop? You know that God loves to give victory over every sin. You know that God calls you to pursue sanctification. You know that the Holy Spirit equips you to succeed. God has given you everything you need in the gospel. So why do you keep failing? The only conclusion I can come to is that you are so consumed with self-gratification that you are not willing to fight, and I mean really willing to fight, this sin. If it’s not that you can’t, it must be that you won’t.

I plead with you. I plead with you on behalf of your wives, on behalf of your future wives, on behalf of Christian women everywhere: Stop. Just stop.

Stop believing that this is a special sin that women just can’t understand—we do understand sin. This isn’t a special sin, it is just sin: God-belittling, Christ-mocking, Spirit-despising sin. Stop pretending like there are no future consequences to your actions. Stop putting your selfish desires first. Stop engaging in activities that bring shame on the gospel. Stop doing things that leave us picking up the pieces of your devastated wife. Stop indulging in your sin, and start thinking and acting like a God-honoring, Christ-praising, Spirit-glorifying man. For the love of God and his church, stop.