MEN AND EMOTIONAL LOADS
Men are not good emotional load bearers. Men always snap and break in a prolonged emotional drag.
There are five responses:
1. Some men under an emotional load will abscond. They just walk away. Walking away can present in many ways - drinking, unnecessary relationship, divorce etc. This response makes us vulnerable to snares that ordinarily we would not fall into if not for the emotional load.
2. Some men will become violent under emotional load. They hurt people around them in an unconscious effort to set themselves free. This response makes the man irresponsible, you cause wounds and afflictions that can last longer even after we are gone, and can land you in prison.
3. Some men under emotional load will just succumb to any demand in a bid to have peace. Many girls use this a lot to manipulate men. Even some wives equally use this to get what they want from their husbands. This response makes you a man without principles. You remain a puppet.
4. Some men under emotional load will simply engage the person creating the load in a battle and fight. They quarrel, sideline the person, stop talking to the person, punish through delays and denial of privilege, compete and make efforts to subdue and control. This response makes you a wicked man. Because the male gender does not often have the skill to deal with dragged emotional load, your fight will make you do things that when people hear it, they will not realize that you are struggling. They will just conclude that you are wicked. You will make several costly mistakes.
As a Christian man, your emotional loads can only come from your girl-child or married wife. Men are generally not good in playing this game. No other girl or woman should place any emotional load on you. That leads me to the only response I recommend.
5. (Recommended). Ask God for strength. Stand strong. You often learn a lot when you sincerely and humbly engage your wife with the mind of resolving the issue at stake and diffusing and relieving yourself of the emotional load. Seek to discover the need behind the emotional load and determine to meet it. Once met, the loan goes away. God often uses this to deal with our ego as men. This ego must be pruned if you are to make eternal impact and your wife is often the tool, and sometimes in the crudest ways.
Be humble and seek to know what your Master wants to achieve in every situation. I pray you succeed.
Remain blessed 🙏
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